Showing posts with label Random Rantlings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Random Rantlings. Show all posts

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Princess Diana: ‘Dauntingly Phenomenal’

She was amazingly beautiful; the most-talked about; allegedly the most photographed; she was, also, perhaps the most misunderstood Princess. For most, it probably couldn't get any better than this: being a ‘Royal’ and even maybe a Queen some day. Their wedding was a fairy-tale. Atleast, that’s how it was portrayed in the media. The whole ceremony was televised and there were hundreds of thousands of people on the streets of London that day, and pretty much the same is expected tomorrow for Prince William and Kate Middleton’s D-day. But, I mean that not normal, right? Every little, minute detail was up for grabs in the 1981 Royal wedding, the bride is wearing what, who’s designed it, which carriage is she coming in in, the bouquet of flowers in her hands, the bridesmaids, the train (25 feet!!!); come on, so much media attention, its got to catch up with you. On the day, Lady Diana did look like a princess but all that everyone can think of telling now in hindsight (and before the Will-Kate wedding, of course) is: Why is she so sad??? If you knew she was so sad, why would say that the wedding was a fairy-tale and that the bride really looked like a princess. I thought she looked lovely, not at all sad; she was looking like any 20-year-old would if she was going to marry a Prince; she messed up with the name, held the hand of her to-be-husband in the middle of hymns with the whole of 3500 people audience looking at them at the altar, that doesn't reflect as someone who is sad.

People have the tendency to claim that things were looking bad after they actually have turned bad. But that’s the way people are, and that can’t be helped.

I think it is a big responsibility to get married. It is a huge thing. And doing service to the people, is always met with dissatisfaction. Whether queen or housewife, really.

“When no one listens to you, or you feel no one's listening to you, all sorts of things start to happen. For instance you have so much pain inside yourself that you try and hurt yourself on the outside because you want help, but it's the wrong help you're asking for. People see it as crying wolf or attention-seeking, and they think because you're in the media all the time you've got enough attention, inverted commas. But I was actually crying out because I wanted to get better in order to go forward and continue my duty and my role as wife, mother, Princess of Wales. So yes, I did inflict upon myself. I didn't like myself, I was ashamed because I couldn't cope with the pressures

I think this is true about pressure. Lots of people tell, ‘cope up with the pressure; become stronger, there is no other way to deal with this.’ And you know what; I don’t think it’s about that. I mean I feel is more about the after-math of the handling pressure than the actual handling the pressure bit. It’s about how you deal with dealing with pressure.

I think she was a great and good person. Maybe where she went wrong was the manner in which she handled the lack of care or love that was always displayed to her. But to say that she didn’t handle the pressures well enough is wrong, I mean, she did she was told, she didn’t do what she was told not to do, and in the middle of it all, made quite a few sacrifices; but even after all that, she was not shown the care and love that she yearned for. And I think that is where she is like the rest of us; very lucky are those people who are loved and cared and that must always be cherished.

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

House: Everybody Lies

“Treating illnesses is why we became doctors. Treating patients is what makes most doctors miserable.”

I’ve been watching House for more than 4 years now. Trying to make a collection of all the series, but its not been that easy. (If anyone has any episodes from Season 1/2/3, would love to get a copy.) I don’t think that a doctor such as House’s character is around in real life and that too practicing medicine; but I guess there are many shades of House in various professions. His way of thinking is very sadistic to say the least, but it’s just the ting of things that he does that reminds us of him being human. Like in the latest one, he agrees to ‘kill’ his colleague who is suffering from Huntington’s. He encourages his team to get information about the patient through rather different means and methods (like breaking into their homes/workplaces and doing searches). He is almost a detective-doctor. Coz he believes everybody lies.

And I guess that it’s true. We all lie. First it’s with strangers or people whom you know you will only meet during that one time like in a train, or at a place you are visiting; we lie to them almost all the time. Then it’s the other people in life, whom we want to impress or want to prove something; we lie to them most of the times. And the worst: lying to ourselves, mostly because we want to make ourselves feel better or to make excuses.

“People choose the paths that grant them the greatest rewards for the least amount of effort.”

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

the weight loss tamasha

“If you have an ass, move it.”

Been reading Rujuta Diwekar’s second book for quite some time now. Hoping that I will finally start the losing weight part and get off the ‘tamasha’ bit of weight loss, or better yet, fat loss. If you know me well, (and mostly you will, otherwise would not have read till here) you would know that I’ve been trying to lose weight since god alone knows how many years.

But you know, I’ve been reading this book, and it talks more about women and Indian women’s lifestyle (mostly after marriage and kids) and how to inculcate the ‘looking after yourself’ bit for housewives and that its equally important for them to look after themselves so that they don’t tire and frustrate themselves out.

The reason the book is really good is that it actually recognizes the day-to-day lifestyle of a typical housewife and it encourages bringing about a change in the thinking of the housewife: she doesn’t only have to think and look after her family, (read: husband/in-laws/kids/extended family) and that eventually if she doesn’t start giving herself time to look after her body and health, she will have wear and tear and end up feeling tired and frustrate in life.

That’s true. It’s really not that easy to keep putting others before yourself and feel good about it. It only happens in Indian daily soaps.

It’s the world’s most unthankful job: being a (Indian) housewife.

I think the only way to get over this notion is for every (Indian) housewife is start looking after herself in the form of health and exercise and to keep herself fit.

So Happy House-wifying.

Thursday, February 17, 2011

kyun???

y is it that people dont like sad/un-happy/depressing messages for status messages or taglines??

i mean just coz they have a sad/un-happy/depressing message doesnt necessarily mean that the person is sad.un-happy/depressed; they probably are, but not always...and just coz they post a happy message, doesnt mean that they are happy...i mean it the most difficult to write sad/un-happy/depressed words or pieces of writing, a song, or poem...its very difficult, i mean someone like gulzar made almost a living out of it, i mean i know that he doesnt only write sad songs or movies; its known more for its simplicity than for the sadness part, but still, he is so amazingly 'connectable' with his ghazals and all...its very very difficult to write sad stuff, u really have to alot of searching within urself to make sure that u're writing the right stuff....anyways....enough for now...im sounding sad now...more on this later...

here's one that i penned some time ago...(but was not in a sad/un-happy/depressed mood)

dafan kar do iss bachpana ko,
isme zimmedareyon ka ehsaas choot jata hai;
dafan kar do iss hasi ko,
isse gambhir soch chhup jati hai;
dafan kar do khud ko,
khud ka toh wajood he kya hai??

Friday, October 17, 2008

Yeh dosti...

Arrey yaaron, dosti bahut hi haseen hai, yeh na ho toh, kya phir bolo yeh zindagi hai…

…these words are not only part of a good song to listen to; it’s a thought that brings peace and assurance at heart. It reminds you of the inseparable group that you once had in school and college. The bunking of lectures and attending sessions at the canteen; making revenue generating business for coffee shops/ cineplex(s)/ restaurants.

But you know what, har dosti mein kichav hai…

Sorry, boss, I’m not here to put you in dream-land...

har dosti mein kichav hai. But wait, before we get to this, let’s rewind to the start first.

In a new place, organization, or any new beginning; as we get to know people around us, the initial ‘bonding’ (as they call it) is one of a very symbiotic relationship. You might go out with a group of people because they are going to a place that is unfamiliar to you or for a common cause. From there, a symbiotic relationship starts because either you and/or the person(s) need something from the other to stay together. It’s a give and take relationship where the binding element could be as tangible as money to as intangible as the fear of being seen alone by all people around you.

And this practice of nautanki continues in some cases for days and in some for months, till there is a breakdown. A breakdown could be where either of the person(s) in the relationship feels either that there is nothing else to get out of the other party and when the other party fails to give what is needed. That’s when there is a fallout. Friendships break. Awkward looks and weirdness of silence takes place when there is a future encounter.

That’s why there are so few true friends.
Friends for life.
That’s what friends are for. Remember?

Thursday, July 26, 2007

winning isn't everything, its the only thing...right???

That life is not just winning and losing; it’s not always black and white; it’s not always about the right and the wrong; that most of life is what lies in between. It’s about taking a decision against your wishes. It’s about not taking the easier but wrong path. Although you think that doing one thing would be correct for someone else, sometimes you have to do what the other person wants. What is morally correct is it really always the good thing to do? Sometimes you can be wrong and still do the right thing.

Thursday, February 15, 2007

meri dava, mera ghav hai

"duniya ne kata, katt te gaye, khudko kahan tak kaato ge?"

Wednesday, February 01, 2006

AB-Ash?! No way...

rumors say that my indian G2, AB Jr., is wooing Ash, the fakester...aaaahhhhhh, what's with him?!!!!!!!

Sa Re Ga Ma Pa Challenge 2005

coming soon...

Thursday, January 26, 2006

good old school days...

never thought i would say this, but man, i'm missing RIS...really. what days...

the van ride from A&B to RIS, with the driver driving at 20km/hour!!! the walk from the van drop to High School building to the lockers of P, Sn,Sh, J, and me on 5th, 3rd, 2nd, and 1st floors respectively...pacing and tyring to make sure that we enter the building around the same time that G2 comes down to fill his bottle of water from the water fountain...

hanging out before assembly near J and Sh's locker, or PC lab on 4th floor. laughing. singing. talking. gossiping. worrying. the space between Mr. M's classroom and J's locker, it became quite an instant 'aadda'.

and the thursday lunch breaks, where we all 9esp. me) were over-excited about the SEEDS club meeting in H.204 (lambu's room). sometimes G2 did look uncomfortable, maybe 4 indian girls was too much for him to handle, hehe, what say girls?!

man, i miss those days...

Thursday, January 19, 2006

finally got a job (work-study)

"yeh world hain nah, world, is mein doh tarah ke log hote hai, ek woh jo saari zindagi ek he kaam karte rehte hai, aur doosre woh jo ek he zindagi mein saare kaam kar dalte hain...hum oon doosro mein se hain..." (Bunty)

(K: i'm not copying, it's connected, just read on)...
the 1st year at WUT, i worked for the business department head for a year and then at the library for a semester and now the student coordinator in the new Campus Ambassador Program

just to let u know what i do is to coordinate communiations between a group of student ambassadors and Admissions office and have to report directly to the Admissions Director and Admissions Office in bangkok and will be overseeing 10 campus ambassadors...and now your obvious question, who r these student ambassadors and what do they do?...

well, student ambassadors are people who bring new students from bangkok airport to hua hin and now they will be involved in providing an oversight of WUT to prospective students via email correspondence and thru personal interaction on campus with any visitor from particular countries (Bangladesh, Bhutan, India, Burma, Nepal, Norway, Thailand, and Vietnam).

hmm...enough of that for today iguess, not muc time also for writing too much...hopefully my work will help...i alraeyd have a brilliant idea...let's see how well it works...thanks N...

take care and God bless people...