Yeh dosti...

Arrey yaaron, dosti bahut hi haseen hai, yeh na ho toh, kya phir bolo yeh zindagi hai…

…these words are not only part of a good song to listen to; it’s a thought that brings peace and assurance at heart. It reminds you of the inseparable group that you once had in school and college. The bunking of lectures and attending sessions at the canteen; making revenue generating business for coffee shops/ cineplex(s)/ restaurants.

But you know what, har dosti mein kichav hai…

Sorry, boss, I’m not here to put you in dream-land...

har dosti mein kichav hai. But wait, before we get to this, let’s rewind to the start first.

In a new place, organization, or any new beginning; as we get to know people around us, the initial ‘bonding’ (as they call it) is one of a very symbiotic relationship. You might go out with a group of people because they are going to a place that is unfamiliar to you or for a common cause. From there, a symbiotic relationship starts because either you and/or the person(s) need something from the other to stay together. It’s a give and take relationship where the binding element could be as tangible as money to as intangible as the fear of being seen alone by all people around you.

And this practice of nautanki continues in some cases for days and in some for months, till there is a breakdown. A breakdown could be where either of the person(s) in the relationship feels either that there is nothing else to get out of the other party and when the other party fails to give what is needed. That’s when there is a fallout. Friendships break. Awkward looks and weirdness of silence takes place when there is a future encounter.

That’s why there are so few true friends.
Friends for life.
That’s what friends are for. Remember?